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Aulia's avatar

Reading it in the middle of mundane days and figuring out that actually I was trying to cope from my pain this past weeks. Thanks for this beautiful reminder Keesha and Hasif🥺

lesmxx's avatar

this genuinely hit me like a truck. I’m new to substack and the one thing I keep noticing over and over again is how thoughtful people’s posts, pieces, and essays are. I appreciate this app and the new connections it’s opening up for me so very much.

Sara's avatar

very beautiful piece! this made me think of how hurt i was recently when my ex created a dating app account using the picture i took of him after i met his whole family… trying to seem cool and very put together, ready to move on, when he is actually extremely miserable and in desperate need of validation. the importance of not postponing your grief and allowing yourself to feel cannot be stressed enough. thank you so much for writing this! <3

Jessica's avatar

It’s nice reading these so so good

Data Frank's avatar

Coping helps you get through the moment, but change reshapes the pattern that keeps putting you in the same struggle.

The Rebuild Project's avatar

Coping gets you through the moment, but healing slowly changes the life that keeps breaking you open.

ellie's avatar

Holy shit. I related to this so hard. Thank you.

— nikki's message to you —'s avatar

"Staying awake until 4am simply because silence made everything louder" hits very close to home. It is so frightening. Speaking on a personal level, resting always worried me. It always sparked fears and left me with my thoughts and I often can't handle my own thoughts. I'm connecting with this part the most as a 'non-chill' person but I'm aware of people like you because I used to be close to people like that.

Candace's avatar

Beautiful. I think we don't realize that healing is coming back to yourself and if you don't know who that self was, it can feel so overwhelming that we cope instead. Thank you for stating that healing doesn't need to be just therapy. Everyone is different. Everyone heals a different way.

Mehak's avatar

brilliant work here; it made me reflect…honestly… something I seldom do since delululand is so comfortable. although i’ve been coping in every which way, i’ve had moments of healing and yes, it is the loneliest feeling one can experience

Deejayy's avatar

The way this has spoken to me this morning. Sitting here at my desk pretending to work and reading the words I havn't been able to articulate or even wanted to admit outloud. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

avie 𖦹's avatar

wonderful piece, i truly needed this. thank you hasif and keesha, your words keep me moving forward 💌

Shawna Daneen Phelps Dance's avatar

❤️‍🩹🖤💚💛

Double ID's avatar

Sometimes people don’t miss you.

They miss the version of you that made their role possible.🥂🍀🫶