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The Reframe's avatar

Most of the people telling you these things are projecting from their own lives…they want the solo trip to Japan but are saving for a house so they judge you for taking that trip..They want affirmation in their own lives by advising you are your life.

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Addison🎧's avatar

I fear for this when I finally get to be in my twenties! I don’t want to do a checklist that everyone else is fighting to achieve, I just want to live! Love this piece <33

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My Twenties's avatar

Can I give this piece a million likes, i love it💯

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Divya's avatar

Spoke everything that's on my mind 😭

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Kate Kay's avatar

This was nauseating to read

…but in a holy shit we are all living the same lives. Why?

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gurly 🎀⋆˙⟡'s avatar

omg the way i can relate to every single line written 😭 the pressure is SO incredibly real.

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Forrest Hikes Forests's avatar

I got bad news for you...none of what you astutely wrote changes in your 30's, and 40's. It only compounds. BUT the good news is you have already figured it out early - live your way.

No one is ever late, they are right on time.

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Julia's avatar

pleeease, the idea of monetizing your hobby is so real, is like a pressure that is put there for no reason, because I can't just enjoy something anymore, as if I like something I need to make money out of it. Honestly, just do whatever you are feeling like doing and whoever has concerns about it should be paying your rent.

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Wer's avatar

Very cool and funny I really laughed , but the thing is to learn to mix all that into life without internal stress and pressure , but also it’s still hard and stressful

Hahahaha 👏🏻

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Thinking...'s avatar

Love your writing 🩵🩵

Would love to connect on Insta 🫶🏻

IG: @sarah.o333

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She's Been Writing 🎀's avatar

I feel like you just called me out like yur essay was so me😭

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Daphne Flumine's avatar

I feel like ppl take the stuff they see on social media way to serious. If you want to do something just do it and if you want to change it, you can.

There is no fixed rule about "if you start with this, you need to finish it and do it till you die".

Don't belive social media, influencer don't have their life together, in their twentys no one has.

We are not a celebrities we don't need to appeal to the public, YOU can choose what ever YOU like to do.^^

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matita's avatar

cute!!!

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Melvina's avatar

God Pleaseeeee😭😭😭

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Sara Murray's avatar

This hits just like the Barbie monologue but specifically tailored to your 20s

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Meple's avatar

I turn 20 in about a month. This essay made me realise that perhaps it is not so big a deal as everyone makes it out to be :) this made me feel seen 🫶

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