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TJB3's avatar

You have expressed the inklings and questions about the emptiness of intimacy with input commitment powerfully and beautifully! Thank you for putting these heartfelt thoughts into words!

From the beginning, God ordained sex for marriage: Genesis 2:22-24 - โ€œ22 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

23 ยถ And Adam said: โ€œThis is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.โ€

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.โ€

The emptiness you feel as a result of intimacy without commitment is real and is likely God pointing you toward Himself. No person can fill the void we all have in us. Only Christ can do that as we call upon Him in truth (Psalm 145:18), trust in Him (Acts 16:31), and repent of our sins (II Chronicles 7:14).

I John 1:8-9 - โ€œ8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.โ€

This life is hard as you know. Itโ€™s harder when we walk it alone. Please strongly consider seeking out a truly Bible believing and Bible teaching church and talk with the pastor about these concerns. I donโ€™t have it all to together. Nobody does, but God is our help in trouble (Psalm 46). I will pray for you about this if youโ€™d like for me to.

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Shubha Deshpande's avatar

Beautiful!

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Asian Beach Baby's avatar

Agree! I'm a romantic by heart and the dating scene has agonized me. I'm so done dealing with nonchalant people who are too cool for commitment. I want devotion and passion, not a late night text asking me to come over when it's convenient for them.

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SchizoEmpath's avatar

louder for the people in the back

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shri โœฎโ‹†ห™'s avatar

was going through this same thing and damn you explained everything what i had wanted to tell him!!

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girl in pieces's avatar

hasif you did NOT hold back, I applaud this conviction ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ซ

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With love, Mairo Writes's avatar

Beautifully written with the most explicit truth no one willingly loves to hear!

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Frisson's avatar

Right person wrong time epidemic and i never developed immunity

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Jahniah Kum's avatar

As someone going through this, grieving this while simultaneously sure they just found โ€œthe oneโ€. Itโ€™s been a roller coaster. I happy I left the situations-hips behind & chose someone who loved me back but the timing of it all made me feel it full force.

โ€œIโ€™m a person. And if I let you in, it means I trust you.โ€

This sentence really resonated with me. It really hurts to be led astray, but Iโ€™m happy I ultimately chose happiness.

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Lรญvia's avatar

speechless!! you wrote perfectly what I think and could not describe in words, loved it <3

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Fabbsy๐ŸŒผ's avatar

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Sairah Manzoor's avatar

I really loved the way you mentioned it. Feels like my heart is speaking out through your words.๐Ÿ™Œ

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Naza's avatar

Awesome ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿพ

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Cheri's avatar

Everyoneโ€™s point of view is different and we canโ€™t control others and how they act or speak. We can only control ourselves of what we want to represent and where we choose to be and around with. โค๏ธ

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Sammi's avatar

I love the emotional intensity of this. I can feel the anger, and the frustration. And the best part is, every single word is correct. I'm done living in a world where showing emotional depth doesn't need to be taken seriously.

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The Internet Wife's avatar

There is no story. All of this is what we think is true. But it is yet another story. When it comes to love, write the love story you want.

Write a million more.

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