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Unpacking this in therapy…'s avatar

title reminded if of the breakfast club movie quote and it made my heart smile

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oty💌's avatar

This is vulnerability!

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Homer's avatar

thats was something i needed to read. thanks.

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huda's avatar

I don’t know why but I instantly thought of that quote from Call Me By Your Name 'We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster... But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything what a waste.' We’re so often taught that growing up means to toughen up vulnerability means weakness. But you reframed it beautifully. Maybe maturity isn't the death of feeling but rather feeling more deeply with a purpose I love it. I really needed to hear this especially at a time when I’ve been feeling like I'm going through some sort of a quarter life crisis. I’ve become so detached in every way thinking it was me protecting myself only to realize there’s an emptiness now where there wasn’t before. I’ve been closing myself off so much that I didn’t even realize how out of touch I’d become with my own emotions. But reading this reminds me that it’s okay to feel again to reconnect with my heart which I’m learning to do.

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Hannah Choi's avatar

Another beautiful and thoughtful piece. Thank you!

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hasif 💌's avatar

thank you so much for reading and holding space for my words 💚

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🐞kadi's avatar

I just nearly cried hasif. Thank you for being real. For speaking your truth…you are a great writer!

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hasif 💌's avatar

you have no idea how much this means to me. thank you for reading with such an open heart 💚

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Rose Williams's avatar

That final paragraph really moved me omg

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hasif 💌's avatar

ahh that means so much to me :’)

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Anjali Krishnakumar's avatar

It's beautiful that your words always hit right at the chords and make people feel seen, Hasif!! I also love that we share aligned thoughts, since my recent share follows a similar theme!! <3

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hasif 💌's avatar

okay this made me smile so much 🥹 it’s always so special when words align like that like we’re all feeling the same thing in different corners of the world. going to read your post too!! love this lil connection we’ve got <3

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doll's avatar

oooh hasif this was so beautiful! your works are always lovely.

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hasif 💌's avatar

Thank you so much! That really warms my heart.💚

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´Chai .'s avatar

this is the first post i've read from this platform, and it made me fall in love with it! so well written and beautifully concluded. it felt like i was reading thoughts i couldn't express that well myself.

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hasif 💌's avatar

It's crazy how sometimes we all share the same unspoken thoughts, right? Thank you for sharing this, and I’m so happy this was your first read here! Welcome to the fifi family! 🫶🏼

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anam༯'s avatar

This is so beautifully written

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hasif 💌's avatar

thank you so much 🥺 means the world to me, truly. so glad it reached you the way it was meant to. 💌

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i love you, ju's avatar

im crying cut the cameras

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hasif 💌's avatar

NOOO because that’s literally me after writing it 😭

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Emily's avatar

This made me tear up because I've noticed the passion that was instinctual when I was growing up isn't quite there anymore. I'm not sure if this was specifically about people or about life things, but I interpreted it as both. I think a lot of things turn down the fire over time, as you mentioned, and I think it's okay that that happens. But I think it would behoove us all to say yes, it's okay that our hearts are different, but let's not forget that passion we once had. Let's try to find it everywhere we can. Let's try to let our hearts be as free as we once were and not let them die.

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hasif 💌's avatar

this comment made me tear up 🥺 you're so right it's about both people and life. the fire dims, but it’s still there, quietly waiting. and yes, let’s never stop trying to find that passion again, even in the smallest things. thank you for this💚

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